tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330961477761382929.post5879625118469769420..comments2020-10-20T08:38:55.318-07:00Comments on ROMANCE RAMBLINGS: INFIDELITY - PART TWOViviane Brentanoshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02808392383255590249noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330961477761382929.post-60239203646918045422010-11-16T11:10:50.974-08:002010-11-16T11:10:50.974-08:00You've posed some great questions. I just cele...You've posed some great questions. I just celebrated 32 years with the man I love. It hasn't always been easy and I do agree with you that it seems one partner must give more than the other...it just swaps back and forth at time. <br /><br />As to your question about mind cheating. I guess I feel if the person is only spending time as a friend, nothing more, than there is nothing wrong with it. But if that thought goes any farther, than the possibility of a sexual cheating is imminent. Can the partner in question trust themselves not to let it become sexual? If they can't trust themselves, then how can their partner trust them?<br /><br />Good questions. Thanks for posting it.<br />C.K. VolnekCharliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03523744949575339156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330961477761382929.post-39695346816548951682010-11-14T12:40:41.077-08:002010-11-14T12:40:41.077-08:00Great response. I totally agree about the expectat...Great response. I totally agree about the expectations of marriage. personally, I am cynical about the whole institution. As I stated in an earlier blog, One partner seems to have to give more for it to succeed. Thanks for stopping byViviane Brentanoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02808392383255590249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330961477761382929.post-85170860338304473122010-11-14T11:52:41.653-08:002010-11-14T11:52:41.653-08:00The easy answer is 'no', we will never fig...The easy answer is 'no', we will never figure the game of love out. But that's what also makes it wondrously interesting. In my work-in-progress novel Night Surfing, I have my character Sosie Bend suffering from Love Amnesia so when she meets Jagger, a surfer, who only appears at night, she asks him to teach her everything he knows about love.<br /><br />For the rest of us living in the real world, love can be complicated. You rarely here people who have been married a long time talking about Soul Mates. I personally believe the soul-mate phenomenon is what makes a lot of marriages unravel -this feeling that there is only one perfectly meshed soul out there just waiting for us. Over time, even Brad Pitt would probably annoy us! <br /><br />I read once that only about 11% of people truly get it right the first time around in marriage - that they are astute enough, self-evolved enough and know themselves well enough to figure out early on what they truly need in a life-long partner. Most of us the first time around seek out the parent we had the most difficulty with growing up and then become so frustrated when they are as difficult to live with as the parent! <br /><br />I believe you can love more than one person, even at the same time.<br />And then there's jealously, as you mentioned. Jealousy and things like that, that we don't deal with within ourselves, just serves to break down the positive parts of marriage. I want to be with someone desirable.<br />That's part of attraction. And then to think they just are devoted to you.<br />That's a turn on for me. Oh, it is so very complicated. There are a lot of bumps in the road in a long marriage. And nobody ever tells you how to get over or around them. It's crazy the expectations we place on most marriages. If we all just lightened up a bit, I think we would be a lot better off. But then, I'm a free spirit who while I've been in a long marriage, never needed it at all! Just love me and love yourself. It's a much better pact to enter into and one that two people can actually master...Word Actresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04041865850513656748noreply@blogger.com